Ephesians 4:22-24 put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires, to be made new in the ATTITUDE of the MINDS, and to put on the new self, created to be like GOD in true righteuosness and holiness.
Recently, i had a fight with one of my close friends, she didnt apologise neither did i apologise to her, we would actually see ourselves in school and walk pass, we would be with other friends and not talk to each other, that went on for quite sometime, a friend even approached me to talk about the whole drama:
friend: this is gettting too long, i think you guys should have a talk
maria: na its okay, i feel peace, i really dont want a talk
maria: the truth is that i actually made a DECISION to be on my own, because we dont get along, we always fight and argue, and it drains my energy and all so lets remain like this.
friend: i can understand
CONCURRENTLY I HATED EVERY BIT OF THE MOMENT.
who can relate? hahahahahahahahahahaha
one random sunday i decided to talk with my friend, so i went to her room, apologised and she said "na.....i am not upset with you, i just decided to stay on my own". exactly the same thing i said, and i said to her, thats a wrong approach girl, i thought that way too but that's totally wrong.
So many times we make emotional decisions, we make decisions based on how we feel not because it is actually what we want. we just want to get rid of that person, we just want to stop talking, we just want to be on our own, we just want to be over the friendship, we just want to let go and all... Truely its very necesary to make the decision of letting some kind of people leave our lives, when people always threaten to walk away from your life, its also okay to make the decision of letting them go because your destiny is not tied to the people that left, if you try to make it work and it does not work its not an accident, its okay to make the decision to clap your hands, wash your face, dance and keep moving. BUT why do you actually make the decisions you make?
because they offended you?
did you think about letting go when things were right
or you are too lazy to make it right?
or its not worth it?
you've tried your best and its not good enough?
its too complicated?
its draining your energy?
their season in your life is over?
or they dont want you?
what ever your reason is for making a decision, how you go about it matters. If you want a strong relationship dont treat people in a disposable way. you cant just make a decision in your heart to stay away just by yourself without having a talk with whoever you want to stay away from, there has to be a talk, there has to be an end in the relationship. if there was a quarel it should be resolved, if there was a complication it should be simplified, if you are tired, or their season in your life is over or they offended you or your relationship with them is draining your energy it should be communicated to them peacefully afterwards you can move on with your new decision. my point is that, you should excuse yourself out of a relatiomship peacefully and dont walk out on people.
WHY IS THIS NECESARY?
It is necesary because if you dont put off the old you cant put on the new, Jesus had to put off the old so that we could have the new. Apart from this when we actually talk about our pain or our decision, it will be made new in the attitude of our mind. instead of handling it with a clouded mind and with so much misunderstanding, we would have a new mind about it and if we have a new mind about it, we would have a new life about it, it is also necesary because when you talk about it, it looses its power, its depth and its complication, you realise it was never that deep, lastly when you talk about it, YOU PUT OFF your old thougth and PUT ON a new thought.... its always anti-toxic to deal with issues before making decisions because it keeps our minds, thoughts, hearts healthy and very toxic to make decisions based on how we feel because it keeps our minds, thoughts and hearts polluted and very unhealthy